Four Steps to Being a Good Friend
Many believe the Native American language s were very simple dialects. When in fact, many of the native language vocabularies were as large as the French or English. Many Native Americans expressions were very eloquent. For instance, the meaning of a friend was "one that carries my sorrows on her back." What an excellent definition!
At one time or another, many of us need a friend to help us carry a problem, not solve the problem.
So how do we help carry someone burdened without their burdens becoming our burdens?
One
" One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say. "
------ Bryant H McGill
Lend an open ear and an open heart. Many times, people can begin to solve their problems just by hearing themselves talk it out. Giving them your time and listening ear is a priceless gift.
Two
“I've begun to realize that you can listen to silence and learn from it. It has a quality and a dimension all its own.”
― Chaim Potok
Don't be afraid of awkward silence. Many times, silence adds space for the other person to process what they are feeling and helps bring clarity. So, don't feel rushed to give an answer or to solve the problem. Get comfortable with silence.
Three
“A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal.”
-Steve Mraboli
Help if you can when a friend's burden is exceptionally heavy. For example, when a family member dies, or sickness strikes, our friends may need practical help. Consider cooking a meal, mowing their grass, or lending an extra hand carpooling to help lighten a friend's load.
Four
Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” -Matthew 19:26
Remind them we can only do so much, but God can do the impossible. Pray with them if they will let you and pray for them. Prayer puts the burden where it belongs, on God's shoulders, not ours.
A simple phrase to remember I learned from my pastors wife
"If you want a friend be a friend." – Sister Pastor Candace Moya
Love you and see you next week,
Roanna
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